We try to treat ourselves as best we can. But, usually we do things to ourselves that aren’t particularly good for us.
We beat ourselves up, we make ourselves feel guilty, we make others happy at our own expense. The list is endless, and we definitely need to stop doing these things.
The thing is, we often forget to take care ourselves and forget our own self worth. We live with ourselves more than with anyone else, so why do we do that?
We don’t take the time to do nice things for ourselves or we don’t give ourselves enough credit for the great person that we are. Whatever the case, there are certain things we definitely need to stop doing to ourselves so we can be happier.
Here are 17 things to stop doing to yourself RIGHT NOW!
1. Stop doubting yourself.
Stop doing that. You are better, smarter and more magnificent than you give yourself credit for. If you are constantly doubting yourself, you will never go after any dreams or goals you have.
2. Stop talking bad about yourself.
You say it all the time, oh that was so stupid of me or how dumb am I? Your mind hears you say these things all the time and eventually it will start believing them, if it hasn’t already. Start telling yourself awesome things about you.
3. Stop trying to make things perfect.
The real world doesn’t reward perfectionists, it rewards people who get things done.
4. Stop procrastinating.
Procrastination and laziness go hand in hand. We will put it off until tomorrow because we don’t feel like doing it today. Usually it is fear that is holding you back from anything. Stop procrastinating and slipping into lazy mode. Get off your arse and go live life. Get stuff done. Tomorrow might not come.
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5. Stop working too hard or too much.
Work work work. Is that the story of your life? What about your life? Are you taking time to enjoy it? Your brain and your body nee d to time to decompress and step away from work mode and into leisure and relax mode. You owe it to yourself to do this, nurture yourself.
6. Stop worrying so much.
We like to worry and I never could figure this out. We worry about things that haven’t even happened and maybe might not ever happen. We stress out over things that we make up in our own heads. Stop doing this. Worrying does nothing for you except remove you from your present state of happiness. When there’s a problem to deal with, deal with it when it occurs. There’s no sense to preemptively worry. This is torment for your brain.
Will it matter down the road? If not, let it go. We all deal with problems, so why waste your happiness on something as meager as a fine?
7. Stop putting your own needs on the back burner.
You spend all the hours in the day pleasing everyone else and at the end of the day, there’s no time for you. Stop spreading yourself thin and not leaving any time for you in your day. You are just as important, if not more, as everyone else. Stop doing this, and make time for you.
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8. Stop being jealous.
Jealousy will eat you alive. Stop being jealous of people. When you are jealous of others, you are not giving yourself enough credit for your skills and talents. You’re giving up your own happiness for what? We all can’t have what we want, but be grateful for what you currently have.
You are just as great, maybe even better, than anyone else at what you can do. You are not here to compete. You are great, just like everybody else.
9. Stop complaining and feeling sorry for yourself.
Not everyone has a great life and EVERYBODY has problems. That’s a part of life. At that moment, it’s hard to be rational and reasonable because we’re overwhelmed with negative feelings. Next time, though, just smile. Think about past negatives and how they led you to a happier, better you. You have a life to live now, not yesterday’s life.
10. Stop blaming yourself.
Not everything is your fault all the time. You didn’t fail at anything. Not everything is going to go your way either. Things happen for various reasons and usually none of them are your fault. Accept what happened, and let it go. If you were at fault, admit and move on. What’s done is done. And it’s done.
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11. Stop playing the victim.
It was wrong. They did you wrong, the system is wrong, they hurt you, bad stuff always happens to you. Ok we get it, that’s enough. the more you talk about it, the worse stuff will happen to you. start talking about good stuff now. Start sharing happy times and put all the victimhood issues aside. That was yesterday, this is today. Start fresh.
We all desperately want happy lives but many of us are still stuck in the wrongs from yesterday. It’s time to let that go and move into today and look forward to a brighter tomorrow. It’s there for those who seek it.
12. Stop spending time with the wrong people.
Life is too short to spend time with people who suck the happiness out of you. If someone wants you in their life, they’ll make room for you. You shouldn’t have to fight for a spot. Never, ever insist yourself to someone who continuously overlooks your worth. And remember, it’s not the people that stand by your side when you’re at your best, but the ones who stand beside you when you’re at your worst that are your true friends.
13. Stop lying to yourself.
Lying to yourself is the worst thing you can do because you’ll trick yourself into doing things that hurt you. You can lie to anyone else in the world, but you can’t lie to yourself. Stop doing this. Instead, be honest with yourself and your life will improve drastically.
14. Stop living in the past.
Imagine if you only read a single chapter of a book? Where would that get you? Nowhere, right? The past is the past. It’ll always be a part of who you are, but don’t let it prevent you from who you could become.
15. Stop trying to be someone else.
One of the greatest challenges in life is being yourself in a world that’s trying to make you like everyone else. Someone will always be prettier, someone will always be smarter, someone will always be younger, but they will never be you. Don’t change so people will like you. Be yourself and the right people will love the real you.
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16. Stop being afraid to make a mistake.
Doing something and getting it wrong is at least ten times more productive than doing nothing. Every success has a trail of failures behind it, and every failure is leading towards success. You end up regretting the things you did NOT do far more than the things you did. Stop doing this, and you’ll become fulfilled and content with your life.
17. Stop getting involved in relationships for the wrong reasons.
Relationships must be chosen wisely. It’s better to be alone than to be in bad company. There’s no need to rush. If something is meant to be, it will happen – in the right time, with the right person, and for the best reason. Fall in love when you’re ready, not when you’re lonely.
This is such a beautiful list of the things we need to stop doing, and we all are guilty of some of these. The best thing to do is just remember each day to appreciate and reflect a bit, even if it’s only a few minutes.
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